Sexual Healing

One day in my teen years, I got really maaad at God. Reason? I did not understand why He frowned on fornication yet gave us all libido as soon as we hit puberty. You aa, You are saying we shouldn’t shag outside marriage, You too aa, You have given us this…, this…, aaarrghh…hm! I was just furious. I kept asking Him questions upon questions. So, what do you expect me to do now that my whole system is excited like jelly but I do not ‘qualify’ to do the errrmmm…you know what I mean right? Right?

Ok, so what now God?


I got no answers immediately, but years later, the picture about sexuality became a bit clearer to me. We can all agree that sex is the single most enticing venture to us humans. We dream, talk, imagine, teach, learn and smack our lips in sheer delight at the mere thought of it. So much attention for a three-letter word huh? That’s enough to tell us there is more to sex than we think we know.

Usually, when we purchase a product, we always read the manufacturer’s note to know how to properly operate the product. Failure to read may result in the damage of the product. It doesn’t even matter if the mistake you made with the product was unintentional, if you do not handle the product as the manufacturer says you should, you’ll have yourself to blame soon enough. More so, though there may be similar products on the market, we are careful to use the actual manual of that particular product’s manufacturer to operate it, just to be on the safer side.

I believe God ‘manufactured’ sex. This Manufacturer then gifted sex to us and gave us just one clause to it – to experience it with our spouses, no one else . That’s one requirement God seeks of us – the only. But this seems so difficult for us. Many of us fornicate before we exhaust the puberty slot. Some of us share different sexual partners even after marriage. God guides us in what to do so we can have purposeful lives but why does this particular instruction seem so difficult to adhere to? What to do, what to do?

God being so good, the Bible gives us one antidote to sexual temptation – FLEEEEEE!!!


That’s all. When the hormones start raging, do one thing only – flee! When feelings go rife – flee! The Bible did not say we should pray when we feel tempted, or sing, or negotiate, or try to convince ourselves that nothing will happen. In situations where we get the urge but then we’re alone, fleeing/running would mean switching to or engaging in something that will take our minds off sex. If it happens when you are with the opposite sex, please, pretty please, don’t drag your feet. Remove your slippers and get the herautader! It makes sense that the Bible gives us this advice as we can all agree there is not much we can do about our sexual urges – that’s how we’ve all been programmed. No one who ever fled from such temptation regretted anyway. On the other hand, those who decide to handle it their own way, well, do have a story to tell.

In God’s original plan, it is obvious that couples are meant to appreciate their sexuality in their innocence. If the man is not sexually experienced, and the woman is not either, neither of them can really be bothered by what is boring and what is not. If God says to remain chaste till they’re married, then obviously, discovering and appreciating their sexuality is a part of the marriage package.

You see, sexual immorality is the only act described in the Bible as a sin against one’s own body. And God tells us our body is His temple. This makes what we do with our bodies a top priority to God. In a romantic relationship, any of the partners who are sexually experienced than the other may become the Achilles heel of their sex lives. In most cases, they enter into relationships with sexual expectations and demands that are often not met. This sometimes leads to frustrations, heartbreaks, and disappointments among other things. Sexual intimacy outside marriage could also bring about unnecessary drama, emotional bonds, stress and soul ties.

No matter what, none is wiser than God. Life has proven that so many times. Not trusting God enough to listen to what He tells us about sex is like taking God off the throne and putting a man in place. There’s only one end to ignoring what God says and applauding what man says – disaster. All things are permissible but obviously, not all are beneficial to us.

The good news though is that God does not condemn you if you are not a virgin. Never! Not being a virgin does not also mean one should continue wallowing in sexual promiscuity. One of my favourite realities in the Bible is the fact that no matter how wretched or sinful one thinks he is, God is always, always willing to accept us back to Him (I can’t stress this enough). More importantly, He remembers our sins no more. The stories of Rahab and David reassure us that we can be reconciled to God, no matter how fallen apart we are.

Amazing grace huh?

Some scriptures to look at:

Exodus 6-14, Proverbs 6:32
1 Corinthians 7:2
James 4:7, 2 Timothy 2:22
1 Corinthians 6:18
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
1 Corinthians 6:12
Isaiah 1:18
John 8:11
Joshua 6:25

15 Replies to “Sexual Healing”

  1. Three-lettered word with a lot to it! It’s very educative.
    Glory to God for His grace and mercy that lift us no matter how low we fall. But, much more do we pray that we’ll be strengthened in this grace to live in the victory over the power of sin. God help us.
    Thanks, Jaynes!


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